Thursday, April 25, 2019

How to Find Your Purpose and Do What You Love

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  • “Find something more important than you are,” philosopher Dan Dennett once said in discussing the secret of happiness, “and dedicate your life to it.” But how, exactly, do we find that? Surely, it isn’t by luck. I myself am a firm believer in the power of curiosity and choice as the engine of fulfillment, but precisely how you arrive at your true calling is an intricate and highly individual dance of discovery. Still, there are certain factors — certain choices — that make it easier. Gathered here are insights from seven thinkers who have contemplated the art-science of making your life’s calling a living.
    PAUL GRAHAM ON HOW TO DO WHAT YOU LOVE
    Every few months, I rediscover and redevour Y-Combinator founder Paul Graham’s fantastic 2006 article, How to Do What You Love. It’s brilliant in its entirety, but the part I find of especial importance and urgency is his meditation on social validation and the false merit metric of “prestige”:
    What you should not do, I think, is worry about the opinion of anyone beyond your friends. You shouldn’t worry about prestige. Prestige is the opinion of the rest of the world.
    […]
    Prestige is like a powerful magnet that warps even your beliefs about what you enjoy. It causes you to work not on what you like, but what you’d like to like.
    […]
    Prestige is just fossilized inspiration. If you do anything well enough, you’ll make it prestigious. Plenty of things we now consider prestigious were anything but at first. Jazz comes to mind—though almost any established art form would do. So just do what you like, and let prestige take care of itself.
    Prestige is especially dangerous to the ambitious. If you want to make ambitious people waste their time on errands, the way to do it is to bait the hook with prestige. That’s the recipe for getting people to give talks, write forewords, serve on committees, be department heads, and so on. It might be a good rule simply to avoid any prestigious task. If it didn’t suck, they wouldn’t have had to make it prestigious.
    More of Graham’s wisdom on how to find meaning and make wealth can be found in Hackers & Painters: Big Ideas from the Computer Age.
    ALAIN DE BOTTON ON SUCCESS

    Alain de Botton, modern philosopher and creator of the “literary self-help genre”, is a keen observer of the paradoxes and delusions of our cultural conceits.
    In The Pleasures and Sorrows of Work, he takes his singular lens of wit and wisdom to the modern workplace and the ideological fallacies of “success.”
    His terrific 2009 TED talk offers a taste:
    One of the interesting things about success is that we think we know what it means. A lot of the time our ideas about what it would mean to live successfully are not our own. They’re sucked in from other people. And we also suck in messages from everything from the television to advertising to marketing, etcetera. These are hugely powerful forces that define what we want and how we view ourselves. What I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we’re truly the authors of our own ambitions. Because it’s bad enough not getting what you want, but it’s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn’t, in fact, what you wanted all along.
    HUGH MACLEOD ON SETTING BOUNDARIES

    Cartoonist Hugh MacLeod is as well-known for his irreverent doodles as he is for his opinionated musings on creativity, culture, and the meaning of life. In Ignore Everybody: and 39 Other Keys to Creativity, he gathers his most astute advice on the creative life. Particularly resonant with my own beliefs about the importance of choices is this insight about setting boundaries:
    16. The most important thing a creative per­son can learn professionally is where to draw the red line that separates what you are willing to do, and what you are not.
    Art suffers the moment other people start paying for it. The more you need the money, the more people will tell you what to do. The less control you will have. The more bullshit you will have to swallow. The less joy it will bring. Know this and plan accordingly.
    Later, MacLeod echoes Graham’s point about prestige above:
    28. The best way to get approval is not to need it.
    This is equally true in art and business. And love. And sex. And just about everything else worth having.”
    LEWIS HYDE ON WORK VS. LABOR

    After last year’s omnibus of 5 timeless books on fear and the creative process, a number of readers rightfully suggested an addition: Lewis Hyde’s 1979 classic, The Gift: Creativity and the Artist in the Modern World, of which David Foster Wallace famously said, “No one who is invested in any kind of art can read The Gift and remain unchanged.”
    In this excerpt, originally featured here in January, Hyde articulates the essential difference between work and creative labor, understanding which takes us a little closer to the holy grail of vocational fulfillment:
    Work is what we do by the hour. It begins and, if possible, we do it for money. Welding car bodies on an assembly line is work; washing dishes, computing taxes, walking the rounds in a psychiatric ward, picking asparagus — these are work. Labor, on the other hand, sets its own pace. We may get paid for it, but it’s harder to quantify… Writing a poem, raising a child, developing a new calculus, resolving a neurosis, invention in all forms — these are labors.
    Work is an intended activity that is accomplished through the will. A labor can be intended but only to the extent of doing the groundwork, or of not doing things that would clearly prevent the labor. Beyond that, labor has its own schedule.
    There is no technology, no time-saving device that can alter the rhythms of creative labor. When the worth of labor is expressed in terms of exchange value, therefore, creativity is automatically devalued every time there is an advance in the technology of work.
    Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi has a term for the quality that sets labor apart from work: flow — a kind of intense focus and crisp sense of clarity where you forget yourself, lose track of time, and feel like you’re part of something larger. If you’ve ever pulled an all-nighter for a pet project, or even spent 20 consecutive hours composing a love letter, you’ve experienced flow and you know creative labor.
    STEVE JOBS ON NOT SETTLING
    In his now-legendary 2005 Stanford commencement address, an absolute treasure in its entirety, Steve Jobs makes an eloquent case for not settling in the quest for finding your calling — a case that rests largely on his insistence upon the power of intuition:
    Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.
    ROBERT KRULWICH ON FRIENDS
    Robert Krulwich, co-producer of WNYC’s fantastic Radiolab, author of the ever-illuminating Krulwich Wonders and winner of a Peabody Award for broadcast excellence, is one of the finest journalists working today. In another great commencement address, he articulates the infinitely important social aspect of loving what you do — a kind of social connectedness far more meaningful and genuine than those notions of prestige and peer validation.
    Brain Pickings
    You will build a body of work, but you will also build a body of affection, with the people you’ve helped who’ve helped you back. This is the era of Friends in Low Places. The ones you meet now, who will notice you, challenge you, work with you, and watch your back. Maybe they will be your strength.
    If you can… fall in love, with the work, with people you work with, with your dreams and their dreams. Whatever it was that got you to this school, don’t let it go. Whatever kept you here, don’t let that go. Believe in your friends. Believe that what you and your friends have to say… that the way you’re saying it — is something new in the world.
    THE HOLSTEE MANIFESTO
    You might recall The Holstee Manifesto as one of our 5 favorite manifestos for the creative life, an eloquent and beautifully written love letter to the life of purpose. (So beloved is the manifesto around here that it has earned itself a permanent spot in the sidebar, a daily reminder to both myself and you, dear reader, of what matters most.)
    This is your life. Do what you love, and do it often. If you don’t like something, change it. If you don’t like your job, quit. If you don’t have enough time, stop watching TV. If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; they will be waiting for you when you start doing things you love.
    The Holstee Manifesto is now available as a beautiful letterpress print, a 5×7 greeting card printed on handmade paper derived from 50% elephant poo and 50% recycled paper, and even a baby bib — because it’s never too early to instill the values of living from passion.
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    Saturday, September 08, 2018

    Urge

    The urge to do is as much an instinct as it could be will. Most often instinct overpowers will and then who takes over to justify the action as well.

    A small physical pleasure or wasted time or a huge blunder could be avoided by presence of mind if it can differentiate between instinct and will.

    If there is a hesitation it is probably 2 different opposed signals one pushing the urge into action and the other figuring out if it should actually act...

    Sadly the difference between inertia and will also takes the same course.

    How would we remain with clarity and choose

    Pray that the mind have its clarity and the moment the Divine blessing to guide in deciding

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    Children

    Children don't remember all that happens in childhood but only those specific ones that make impact.

    When they look back tomorrow they need to recall that they were loved. That their parents were just humans hence fallible. That they too were learning just like them faltering in a huge world as grown up children.

    They need to remember that they were corrected with an intention to live truthfully, righteously and wisely though they themselves were trying to be so and expected the children to learn from their (parents) experience.

    Purpose of Life

    The purpose of life is whatever you want it to be

    It is not worth discussing whether or not a certain life was purposeful unless there is a certain specific reason to while away time and in the process not be certain why one should consider the purpose of life of some other person when we are not certain of our own imagined purpose

    If any life form is born, lives, copulates, has offspring, dies that life was purposeful for life itself to continue unhindered...

    :) Om

    Words

    Words are magical. Just sounds that we use to communicate with other beings. Words of any language are magical. The meaning of words convey certain instructions to act or think.

    However when used to convey a thought, an idea, raise awareness, or express emotion what words can do has an impact immeasurable and unseen.

    If we could not convey dreams through words or images could we have built the civilization that we inhabit?

    Resentment vs Blessing

    Do we continue resentment for it engages the ego
    Resentment fills the mind and prevents creativity
    Resentment blocks progress

    Replace resentment with acceptance
    Engage the mind with open ended questions to allow fresh thoughts and ideas
    Bless situations with desire
    Desire is a blessing
    Desire is a Shakthi - Iccha Shakthi
    Replace firefighting of problems with love and allow for goodness and human spirit to prevail

    Monday, June 04, 2018

    Kiss

    While plant my lips on your forehead
    I realize not only my limitations
    But the millions of souls like mine
    Longing for His embrace

    I kiss Thee Oh Child
    Praying that All His children
    Feel His embrace
    In love, In understanding

    That He is All
    And All are just He

    The suffering, the hurt
    The pain, The evil
    All that too are Thee

    May This kiss last long
    May This kiss dissolve the hate
    And may we all sleep as children
    Cradled in Mother's Arms..

    I am..
    Om Tat Sat

    Akhilandeshwari
    https://youtu.be/5mzBduTRqCY

    Saturday, February 25, 2017

    Your Temple

    Fool I have been. Make me mad now in Your Love Oh Lord... Foolishly I searched meaning on walls and dolls, shapes and symbols, I imagined a directionless quest for You who are everywhere everything and timeless. I foolishly imagined life without You in my ignorance. I urge You to cleanse my mind filling words of Your Divine essence. Now I am mad... No longer any quest will quench this thirst. These bones are Thy temples pillars. Life itself is the foundation. This body is Thy Temple and You who reside within am I in all Your glory... These thoughts unqualified are the offerings I place on Thy Divine Form in a permanent flow until Your timeless essence bestows an iota of Infinite Consciousness.I the foolish One shall stand outside this temple with a begging bowl holding on to the bits thrown at me by the passing scenes of imagination. May this thought be blessed by The Divine Love. May I live with You in the Sanctum Sanctorum as Me in You.... May I only rest in this Guha.... Om Tat Sat

    i?

    I know not the names of Thy places, I don't seem to care for the dates and facts, I seem to be disconnected with the directions, time and people other than Thy name on these lips. No image quenches this thirst. No structure feel adequate or safe. No history is meaningful now for You seem to have taken over my all... Lost am I in Your thoughts, I know not why I exist when You are the One and All while I am just a whimsical thought... Lost am I in Your essence or so I think in madness ..You make me lose my senses .. pray You efface this notion of I.... Sivoham Sivoham ...Om Tat Sat

    For the One Divine Glance

    In a corner I twitch to see You, radiant and blissful in stone, a huge effort by a blessed soul a tiny representation of You as my Mother. Pariah am I for I can't see Your form, a cheek a bust or a glimpse of Thine holy feet ... lost am I in my fate for I hear the bells ring and imagine the flames revealing Thy face.. Show me grace for I yearn Thy glance, Show me Love by looking to this side. I am but Thy servant ignorant and lost, I need Thy form to cross this path. Fill my being with Thy thoughts. Pray show me grace and look my way. Om Tat Sat

    Your game

    What game are You playing with this mad one. Showing yourself as a beggar with a bowl. You take change and offer me Your prasad. Neither is my thought pure and my offering just but as You offer me Your blessing;greedy as I am I take my fill and still complain that You don't show me the way. Stop this game..I am but an another thought to You thrown out like the old bilwa leaf on Your being.... Where am I going now Oh Rudra... what is the next game for You now

    Blessing

    As I move farther from you Divine Mother I know not if I am blessed for having your vision or cursed for having to move away from your being... mad am I for You are within and yearn for You elsewhere... pray may I receive Your blessings for my thoughts are yet immature to understand them... My Mother show me the way

    Sunday, October 02, 2016

    Clouds

    You cloud over my thoughts
    You are like the dark rain bearing clouds
    Do You cover the sun
    Or do You simply pass over the sky blocking my view
    Maybe You are the thief who blocks my'vision'
    That imagination where suddenly recognize You in my being
    As thoughts As words and deeds
    As an imagination in Thine dream
    And suddenly You hover over
    As the Seven so called dangers
    Kaama Krodha Lobha Moha Mada and Matsarya

    No more shall I dread these
    For these are You
    As the rain bearing clouds
    Pouring Your Love on the farmers who sow for wellbeing
    And Your wrath on us city dwellers who breed greed
    No more shall dwell on why I dwell over the origins of these thoughts
    You fill my being
    You cloud my thoughts
    You enliven this imagination i consider me

    Oh Keshava!
    You are my thoughts
    You are me

    Om Tat Sat

    Saturday, August 13, 2016

    Kavacha

    A bad workman blames his tools
    How foolish have I been
    I've been blessed with the most sophisticated tool
    Magical and most powerful
    Yet not knowing what if is I have taken it to be me
    I took it not to be me
    I blamed it for all unpleasant situations
    And held it as the reason for all the gaps between reality

    Oh Mind
    Thou Art Divine

    The whole world I perceive is because of You
    You are Shakti
    You are Her blessing
    You are filled with Love
    My ignorance perceives Her Love
    As desire, anger, hurt, pride, lust,greed
    For I don't see Her in Your functioning

    You are a Kavacha (armour),Her blessing
    And not my curse
    You are Swarga where Indra resides
    All the Devas functions in You
    May You lead me to Him
    May Her Love Blossom into my Destiny

    May I fill Your activity with Her Thoughts

    You are Aananda

    Om Tat Sat

    Saturday, August 06, 2016

    Why?

    I admit I am Your imagination
    Then why?
    Why create a being on You're own
    Am I willfully here by You
    Or am I part of Your un-willful dream

    What do I do now
    Whom to I talk to but You
    In all these names and forms
    Whom do I teach
    You who is in all these conscious beings
    Whom do I work when all that is is You

    Even if I playfully participate
    I am but You playing with You
    Working with You
    Crying with You

    Then why?

    Why this separate entity to plead
    Why this imagined being in You
    Who knows not whether to enjoy our suffer
    Knows not what to enjoy what to avoid
    Gets beaten by its own action
    Does this even exist
    If so why this temporary separation

    Why Oh Lord

    I admit I know not anything
    Any wilful lesson is also in ignorance
    I admit my ego plays truant

    Show me why should this separation linger
    Time itself is You and it pains me to know that separation could last an eternity

    Oh Mother why?

    Show me the way to end this separation if it is to work by my action
    Else take me here and now and let not this entity perceive anything but You
    You who are time causation the elements and the mind
    You who are knowledge
    You who are Love

    May I be You
    May I never be me unless I am devoted to You
    May You guide with every breath every thought and every decision

    Until You decide enough

    May I know why

    On Tat Sat